My husband and I have been married for over a year now (you can read about our wedding here), and man was that first year intense. I want to help other newly weds or soon-to-be newly weds navigate that first year with as little struggle as possible so I came up with 10 pieces of relationship advice for newly weds that have really helped my husband and I. Our marriage isn’t perfect; there are highs and lows, but every relationship has their ups and downs. That doesn’t mean it’s a bad relationship, it’s just a normal relationship.
However, if you feel unsafe or invalidated in your relationship, it may be time to reflect on whether or not that relationship is something worth investing in. In layman terms, it’s time to leave or seek help. And it might be better to do that before you tie the knot. But if you’re in a healthy relationship, continue reading.
Relationship Advice #1:
I think before you consider anything about your relationship, being accepting of your SO (significant other) is the number one thing you can do. Fully accepting and loving all the parts of your SO, and vice versa, will make your relationship so much lighter and happier. Being able to be yourself and your SO feeling just as comfortable showing all parts of themselves is the best thing in a relationship.
I’m personally very shy, so it took me a long time to open up and I think that made things difficult for my relationship. My husband has a hard time figuring me out or what I’m thinking and it’s probably because I was so closed off for a long time in our relationship. After I noticed this, I made a real effort to let down my walls and let him in. I’m still working on this now, but things are easiest when I’m my truest self.
Relationship Advice #2:
I know how hard it can be to trust people nowadays, but try not to let that stop you from trusting your SO. Trust is the foundation of every relationship. Without trust, you’ll be paranoid, lines will get blurred, you’ll never know what to believe, and no one wants to be in a relationship like that. That’s why trust is so important and a good piece of relationship advice for newly weds.
It’s also not just about trusting someone, but maintaining that trust that can be difficult. White lies that may be “harmless” are bad habits that you don’t want to develop. If you want or do something that you don’t think your SO would be happy about it, having an argument about it and discussing why that thing was so important to you would be better than lying about it. So have and maintain the trust in your relationship.
Relationship Advice #3:
Communication is another key piece of relationship advice for newly weds. Never assume that your SO knows what you want or what you’re thinking. It leads to a lot of trouble later down the road. Instead, just freely communicate what you’re thinking and feeling. Obviously, nothing harmful but if you would like to say something you don’t approve of or like, there are tons of ways to rephrase it in a positive way.
This relationship advice goes hand-in-hand with acceptance and trust because having those two things will make communicating with one another a lot easier. It will help prevent miscommunication and reinforce your relationship.
Relationship Advice #4:
While communicating is so important, making sure you retain that information is just as important. That’s why I added comprehension to this list of relationship advice for newly weds. I actually saw this somewhere else, but can’t remember where. But it really made me think of all the things I have said or my husband has said and how much of that information was retained or instantly brain dumped. I used to think that once something was said then that’s all that was needed, but since being married. I have learned that this is not always the case.
I’ve got it pretty easy because my husband will repeat himself all the time or re-share the same stories. This has helped me so much to remember certain things about him or things that he likes. For him, to help him better remember things that I have said, he writes it down. I can’t speak for him personally, but I think that helped him a lot in our marriage. So if you or your SO struggle with comprehension, repetition or writing things down could be huge help for your relationship.
Relationship Advice #5:
This is important relationship advice for newly weds because the truth is, you’re not going to agree on everything. It may have been easier to let things go or agree to disagree while you were dating, that won’t fly as well when you’re married. You both will have to compromise a lot when it comes to making life decisions together, like where you’re going to live, jobs you want to pursue, how to raise future kids and so on. There will be several decisions that you will have to make together and agreeing to disagree is not going to work. However, having a decision you both agree on will.
To compromise, you and your SO will have to consider things that you are willing to sacrifice or adjust. This piece of relationship advice can be difficult to accomplish, but not impossible. Love can make you do funny things and show you that things you thought you might have needed are not as important anymore. So just be patient with this one. Even my husband and I are still working on this.
Relationship Advice #6:
This is also another kind of obvious piece of relationship advice for newly weds, but I think it’s often the most forgotten one. It’s so easy to look at things from your point of view, but trying to separate yourself from an issue and looking through it from another person’s eyes can be difficult for many people. But it’s really important in a relationship.
Being able to share the same perspective as your SO and vice versa can make you both more considerate of one another’s feelings. It will also help both of you to understand one another better. This is one of those things that might take a little practice before you can do it regularly on your own.
Relationship Advice #7:
I cannot stress this piece of advice for newly weds enough, spend quality time together. Not just on the couch watching a movie, but make it special. Have candles, set up blankets on the floor, someone take care of food and the other can take care of drinks. Make it a big ordeal so that it’s fun and romantic. Make it a date. Marriage can be difficult because you might not feel the need or importance of quality time since you’re together everyday, but dating is just as important while married.
I’ve noticed that my husband and I will get testy or easily irritated if we go long periods of time without spending any quality time together. You don’t have to go outside for romantic quality time together either. I wrote a blog on really fun and romantic indoor date ideas that you can check out here. Quality times is important so make sure to dedicate some time for each other.
Relationship Advice #8:
I know I just said quality time together is important, but so is me time. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you shouldn’t spend sometime focusing on yourself as well. Taking some time to practice self-care or to focus on yourself is one of the best relationship advice for newly weds that I can offer. You don’t want to lose yourself in the relationship so take some time for yourself and let your SO do the same.
Hangout with friends, go shopping, run errands, practice your skin care routine, read a book, write a story, whatever it is that makes you happy you should designate some time for. For me, I work on my blog or write poems, my husband likes to cook or play video games. We make sure that we have some time to ourselves. It’s honestly the only thing that keeps us sane. Especially when we have little ones running all over the place.
Relationship Advice #9:
Couple activities is a piece of relationship advice for newly weds that my husband really tries to enforce. Not in a bad way, but he likes when we can do things together as a couple and is always trying to find things that we both might enjoy. I’ve actually really appreciated this bit of relationship advice because I do enjoy doing things with my husband. Some activities we do together are playing Call of Duty, grocery shopping, and family outings with the babies. So when we have the chance, we are always trying to do these things together.
I think having something that you both would enjoy doing together regularly is really good for your marriage. It helps when you can’t find time for a date night, or are just really busy in general. It also helps with bonding and gives you some common ground. So definitely try to find some things you both enjoy doing together regularly.
Relationship Advice #10:
This is my favorite piece of relationship advice for newly weds that I can give; celebrate every momentous occasion no matter how big or small. Finding things to celebrate and making special memories for accomplishments will really go a long way in your relationship. Got a promotion? Celebrate it. Found a place to live? Celebrate it. Been married for 6 months? Celebrate it. Bought a car together? Celebrate it. These moments are important because they are accomplishments that you guys fulfilled together. It is worth celebrating.
It doesn’t have to be big either! I like to have a glass of wine with my husband when we’re celebrating something. If it’s a bigger accomplishment, we’ll go out to dinner (or order-in nowadays) to mark the special occasion. I truly believe that celebrating special moments will bring more happiness to your marriage.
Well, those are my top 10 pieces of relationship advice for newly weds! I knew some of these things while I was dating my husband, but most of it I learned during the first year of our marriage. There was a lot of trial and error (more on the error side), but I’ve definitely changed for the better. Relationships are a lot of work. Marriage? Even more work. But love is worth it all. I hope these 10 great pieces of relationship advice for newly weds really helps you and your marriage. Even if you’ve been married for years, I think practicing these 10 tips will only strengthen your marriage.
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