First Trimester – Finding Out I’m Pregnant:
I’ve been thinking about writing this for a while now because when I first found out I was pregnant, I looked up what other pregnant women went through just to prepare myself for the journey ahead. The first thing I learned is that everyone experiences pregnancy differently, but reading or watching videos about all these experiences really helped me mentally prepare for anything. I hope my pregnancy story will help other women looking for insight on what to expect.
So let’s start at the beginning. . . It was mid-November when I realized some of my period symptoms were a little off. I got cramps much earlier than usual and my breast were way more tender than usual also. I brushed it off though thinking it was just my period coming, but it was always in the back of my mind how it was just a little bit different. I mentioned this to my fiancé because, just in case I was pregnant, he was also aware of what was happening. We’ve had scares before but that’s all they were, just scares. So we weren’t thinking much of anything this time around because all the other occasional have just been false alarms.
Well my period didn’t arrive the day that it was expected too (late November), but again that wasn’t a red flag because my period has been late before and early other times. Like by now I can pinpoint the week it’ll arrive, but I could never guess the exact day. That’s impossible. So again, I wasn’t ready to jump to conclusions yet. I also still had the same symptoms I mentioned earlier, and no new symptoms. I tell him pretty much everything so there was never a time he wasn’t aware of what was happening. In the end, I decided I was going to wait one week for my period to arrive and then take an at home pregnancy test.
A week went by and still no period so it was time to test. I have to admit that I was pretty sure I was pregnant at this point, which made me a little anxious with what could be my new reality. When I started to become suspicious about it, I lowered my consumption of alcohol and marijuana (I have a medical card) just in case I really was pregnant. I was really nervous to take the test and I think that’s why I really wasn’t in any rush to test. I also wanted to make sure that I had the most reliable results and waiting until the week after allowed for that.
It was December 3rd and I was getting ready for my last meeting with my sorority, Alpha Gamma Delta. I was graduating that Fall 2018. I was going to wait till the next morning to take the test because I heard first morning pee is the best pee to test with, it holds most of the pregnancy hormones (hcg) that determine whether or not a woman is pregnant. However, I couldn’t wait any longer so I just took it. It took less than a second for those two lines to pop up, one line just as dark as the other.
I went to my meeting in complete shock. But I kept it in because I wanted my fiancé to be the first to know. He wanted to be the first to know so I wanted him to be the first to know also. Due to the fact that he had a late night class, I had to wait till he picked me up from my meeting. But as soon as I got in the car he asked and I told him. He was shocked, excited, and really nervous. He has always wanted to be a dad and had planned his entire life around having a family someday.
It was actually a little funny when I told him because he didn’t believe me at first. He kept asking if I was joking or messing with him, and I had to keep reassuring him I was telling the truth. We didn’t hug or anything because we were in the car and he was driving. He did kiss me though. I also think we were both still processing and recovering from the shock of the news.
So when we got back to the apartment I showed him the pregnancy tests, and the first thing he noticed was how dark the two lines. He widened his eyes and he was like, “oh yeah, you’re definitely pregnant.”
After, we waited a bit before we told anyone. I did the math myself and found out I was around 6 weeks pregnant when we took the test. After a few days, I told my sister. I was nervous to tell her right away because I didn’t think she would be that excited. I was hinting ahead of time that it was a possibility so that she could mentally prepare but that never went very positively. So when I did tell her, I was right about her reaction.
We went to a clinic to confirm I was pregnant and they took another test that came out just as positive as the at home pregnancy test I took. Things started to get real now so my sister and my fiancé convinced me to tell my mom. I made my mom a card that said “Oops” on the cover, and on the inside it had a picture of the pregnancy test and said “Expecting August 2019.”
Her reaction was pretty much what I was expecting, which is why I really needed a lot of convincing before I told her. I was so nervous about telling her because I knew she wasn’t going to be ecstatic and that was just going to make me feel really bad. After she composed herself, she told me what to do and that’s when I scheduled my first doctor’s appointment.
We had to wait until I was between 8-10 weeks pregnant before we could schedule an appointment, so that’s when I had originally scheduled one (at 9 weeks), however I was having this sharp pain on my left side (the side I ovulated on) that made my mom want to schedule me a little earlier. We were worried it might be ectopic (when the fertilized egg implants outside of the uterus).
My appointment ended up being a few days before I hit the 8 weeks mark. I was so nervous and excited for this appointment. Every morning, I was counting down the days until my appointment. I couldn’t wait to see my little baby. They ran a few basic test, blood pressure, urine, weight, and so on. I didn’t know this till the day of, but originally my OB wasn’t going to do an ultrasound but because my fiancé was going to miss the next appointment (he was going to Cali to visit his family for Christmas), my OB did one that day so my fiancé could see the baby before he left.
Much to my surprise, the ultrasound was not done over my stomach so that was an experience. I learned that babies are too small to be detected with that kind of ultrasound. It wasn’t until the second trimester that I started getting ultrasounds the normal way, but I’ll explain that in Part II of my pregnancy journey.
My first ultrasound was so crazy of an experience for me. My heart was racing a mile a minute the whole time. Then he showed us the screen and my heart completely stopped. The tiniest little blimp was on the screen. It didn’t even look like much of a baby, but I was in love. Then he moved the wand around to check my ovaries and bam, another blimp.
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Thank you for reading the first blog of this series! I’m so happy to be able to tell my story about my pregnancy experience. These will be my first babies and I am so excited for this new chapter of my life. If you would like to stay up to date with this series, be sure to subscribe! I would love to have you along on my journey! And if you haven’t yet, be sure to checkout everything Being Alaia has to offer. Thank you again for reading, I’ll see you on the next blog!