When I first started online dating, I wasn’t looking for anything serious. In my head I thought I would meet someone I would date organically, like at a party or something. But I guess fate or the universe or some kind of higher power had a different plan for me.
I was a freshman in college and Tinder had just started becoming a thing. Everyone was doing it, so I thought I’d give it a shot too. I wasn’t very successful with it until I moved back home (I went to college in Arizona my freshmen year).
By the time I moved home, I had become pretty good at figuring out which guys were worth the effort and which were not. Through Tinder I had a one-night-stand and a pretty successful friends with benefits relationship. When that came to its natural end, I thought I’d look for one more casual thing and then something more serious irl.
Honestly, using a dating app for anything but dating made me feeling kind of dirty(?) or ashamed(?). I don’t know what the right word for it is. And even though I knew I shouldn’t have felt that way, because I can do whatever I want with my body despite what anyone thinks, I just couldn’t help giving into such negative stigmas. I would explain more about how I even ended up on Tinder, but it’s honestly just a boring sad story not worth the time of day.
Pushing through those negative feelings, I kept at it until I got what I needed. And I never ever thought that the last person I would meet up with would be my husband. But I guess that’s how online dating works.
It’s kind of funny though because I actually was suppose to meet up with another guy, but that fell through. So I met up with my future husband and love of my life instead.
When we met, I have to admit it was confusing. I wasn’t looking for anything serious and he was. Yet neither of us knew this until the end of the first date when I wanted to take things a little farther but he wanted to go slow.
I thought everyone was kind of on the same page about Tinder being a place for more casual relationships but I guess my husband didn’t get the memo. This worked out for him, because it made him seem endearing which made me want to see him again and again and again . . .
It’s hard to believe that we’ve been together for four years, we’re married, and have two kids now. But I can’t imagine my life any other way.
He always talks about how lucky he is that I never met up with that other guy. Who knows where my life would be right now if I had?
But honestly, I feel like the lucky one. We met at the perfect time and i believe that my husband saved me from myself. He is so good to me and treats me so well. He has his quirks, but I love everything about him. The good and the bad. Our relationship has come such a long way and there isn’t a single thing I regret about it. He is everything and more.
So if you’re considering online dating, or are struggling with it, don’t give up and keep an open mind. You never know when or where you’ll meet your knight in shining armor.
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