This is Chapter 5 of my Pregnancy Journey! Be sure to check out chapters 1-4 here if you haven’t already read it.
On May 15th, 2019 at 5:30pm, I got to marry the love of my life at my Hawaiian Island Wedding!
To be honest, it was not what we were planning or hoping for but it turned out pretty great.
We got engaged on Nov. 7th, 2017 and I couldn’t have been more excited. I was planning on a long engagement because I really wanted to save up to have an amazing ceremony and reception.
So if you told me then that I was going to be pregnant at my wedding, I would’ve called you a fool. No way would I be a pregnant bride. Maybe a gorgeous bride or a stunning bride, but not a pregnant one.
After finding out about our two little miracles a year later, I knew things were going to be different than I envisioned. Although, I didn’t really envision this. I just thought I would have the babies first and then get married after I get back to my pre-baby weight.
I had my wedding dress picked already so I really wanted to be able to fit in it with a body that was solely mine. I wanted to feel beautiful in it and not uncomfortable, or in pain, or swollen.
But things just didn’t really work out that way. The farther along I got the more pressure I felt from family and friends (and sometimes my husband) to tie the knot before the babies arrived.
So I scrapped together what I had (a years saving) and set out to find the cheapest way to get married. Whatever funds remains left would be saved for myself and the babies.
Turns out that getting married in Hawai’i is pretty easy and affordable. There are a lot of elopement service companies that don’t break your bank.
As I’m writing this, I’m quite confident you can count our wedding as a shotgun wedding. Another thing I was hoping to avoid, oh wells.
Anyway, we got married through Weddings of Hawaii. Their service was great, super easy to set up, and very friendly customer service.
I purchased the cheapest package deal they had which included the officiant, a haku lei (flower headband), and a boutonnière for less than $500. The flower pieces were add on and not part of the package deal I purchased.
If you’re looking for something more fancy, they have several nicer options to choose from that come with more (i.e. chairs, an arch, photographer, etc.). But for me, I wanted the cheapest package.
When the day of the wedding arrives, I ended up being half an hour late. I was honestly just dreading the whole thing. My fiancé (now husband) tried his best to make me feel better, but I was a hormonal pregnant lady so nothing could really smooth me.
All of my family was coming even though I really kinda just wanted a secret wedding with only close friends and family. But word got around and more people ended up coming than I expected.
I felt so bad for my grandfather because he paid for the entire dinner for everyone who attended the wedding ceremony. He was more than happy to do it, but still. . . I know the dinner was quite expensive.
I am truly so grateful for all of my grandparents and their generosity. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to pay them back in this lifetime. They have done so much for me and I am eternally grateful. So shoutout to them! I love you!
So yeah, a lot of people were coming, this wedding wasn’t what I wanted, I was miserable from being pregnant, and it was all just so overwhelming. I’m pretty sure I cried, despite trying not to so I wouldn’t ruin the makeup my sister did for me.
We finally get there and everyone is waiting for us (me, my husband, my sister, and my grand aunt). The officiant was truly so sweet and understanding. She was so patient with me. I think she could tell that I was under a lot of stress. She even helped me pick a nice spot on Magic Island to hold the ceremony and take pictures.
Once things started going, I became more and more relaxed. In the end, I thought it was a nice ceremony.
It wasn’t the wedding that I wanted, but just being their with my husband and feeling the babies kick while we were saying our “I do’s” just made everything seem so magical. The sunset was gorgeous too. I guess that’s one of the benefits of living in paradise.
My husband and I plan on an amazing renewing of the vow ceremony to make up for this wedding. I’m hoping I can fit into my dress by then. But at this rate, who knows?
Before I end this blog, I have to give a shoutout to my sister as well. She did my makeup and took pictures of my wedding. She also helped me plan all of my babies’ events. I don’t know how people survive life without a twin. I know I certainly would not have without my sister and I take comfort in knowing my boys will also have each other in the same way.
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